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Swingers Dictionary

The world of swinging has developed its own set of termonology over the years. This list should help you understand most of it.

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• AC/DC    top
  Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.
• ADULT    top
  Euphemism for pornographic.
• ALL CULTURES    top
  Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)
• AMERICAN CULTURE    top
  Man on top, the missionary position.
• ANAL SEX    top
  Anal intercourse; see Greek, Greek Culture.
• ANALINGUS    top
  Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other.
• ANIMAL TRAINING    top
  Sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women; Bestiality
• ARTS    top
  Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures

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• B&D or B/D    top
  Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her "slave". (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
• BBW    top
  Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their "ideal" weight, but are comfortable with the size that they are..
• BESTIALITY     top
  (see ANIMAL TRAINING)
• BI    top
  Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)
• BI-CURIOUS    top
  A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
• BIZARRE    top
  Unusual sexual desires
• BONDAGE    top
  A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."

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• CAN ENTERTAIN    top
  Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
• CAN TRAVEL    top
  Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.
• CANING    top
  A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.
• CHEATING    top
  Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
• CLEAN    top
  Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases
• CLOSED DOOR    top
  (see CLOSED SWINGING)
• CLOSED SWINGING    top
  Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides a maximum of privacy.
• CLOSET SWINGER    top
  A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)
• COUPLE    top
  In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.
• CPL    top
  (see COUPLE)
• CUCKOLD    top
  While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who's wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition.
• CULTURE    top
  Euphemism for Fetish or Arts.
• CUNNILINGUS    top
  Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)

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• DILDO    top
  An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
• DIRECTOR    top
  The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
• DISCIPLINE    top
  A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
• DISCREET OR DISCRETION    top
  Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.
• DOCILE    top
  Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
• DOMESTIC TRAINING    top
  Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
• DOMINANT    top
  A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.

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• ENGLISH CULTURE    top
  Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning
• ENTERTAIN    top
  (see CAN ENTERTAIN)
• EXHIBITIONIST    top
  Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched.

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• F    top
  Female
• FELLATIO    top
  Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.
• FETISH    top
  Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.
• FLAGELLATION    top
  Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.
• FRENCH CULTURE    top
  Oral-genital sexual activity; (see Fellatio, Cunnilingus)
• FUN AND GAMES    top
  Euphemism for sexual activity.

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• GAY    top
  A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.
• GBM    top
  Gay Black Male
• GENEROUS    top
  Refers to money for sex.
• GREEK CULTURE    top
  Anal-penile intercourse
• GROUP ROOM    top
  Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
• GROUP SEX    top
  Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
• GWM    top
  Gay White Male

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• HARD CORE    top
  A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
• HARD SWINGING    top
  (see HARD CORE)
• HEAD    top
  Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head" (see French Culture )
• HEDONIST    top
  Someone who lives for pleasure.
• HETEROSEXUAL    top
  Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
• HOMOSEXUAL    top
  Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)
• HORNY    top
  Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure.
• HUNG    top
  Refers to a man with a large penis.
• HWP    top
  Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.

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• INDOOR    top
  Swinging activities in general
• INDOOR SPORTS    top
  (See INDOOR)
• INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP    top
  Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.
• IRL    top
  In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat
• ISO    top
  In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female

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• LEATHER    top
  A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments.
• LESBIAN    top
  A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY)
• LTR    top
  Long Term Relationship

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• MARITAL AIDS    top
  Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
• MASOCHISM    top
  Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
• MASTER/SLAVE    top
  Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
• MATROOM    top
  Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
• MEET FOR PLEASURE    top
  Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity.
• MENAGE A' TROIS    top
  Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. (see THREESOME, TRIAD)
• MORESOMES    top
  More than three people in a swinging interaction. (see GROUP SEX)
• MBC    top
  Married Black Couple
• MBiC    top
  Married Bisexual Couple
• MWC    top
  Married White Couple

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• NASCA    top
  The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become. Levels of members: Affiliate Club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research.
• NEWCOMERS    top
  New people in swinging; First-timers.
• NONSMOKER    top
  Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.

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• OFF-PREMISE    top
  No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers.
• OPEN DOOR    top
  (see OPEN SWINGING)
• OPEN SWINGING    top
  A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy.
• ORAL-GENITAL    top
  (see FRENCH CULTURE, CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO, HEAD)
• ORGY    top
  Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex.

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• PARTY    top
  Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
• PARTY CLOTHES    top
  Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.
• PARTY HOUSE (Western US)    top
  A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.
• PASSIVE    top
  Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)
• PHOTO    top
  Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.
• PHOTOGRAPHY    top
  Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
• P/P    top
  Photo and phone number (used in personal ads).
• PRO    top
  Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.

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• RECREATIONAL SWINGER    top
  A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment.
• RESTRAINT    top
  Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
• ROMAN    top
  Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see ROMAN CULTURE)
• ROMAN CULTURE    top
  Sexual orgies
• RUBBER    top
  Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.

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• SADISM    top
  Sexual gratification through inflicting pain and humiliation on others.
• SAFE    top
  Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile.
• S.A.S.E.    top
  Self-addressed stamped envelope.
• SBF    top
  Single Black Female
• SBiF    top
  Single Bisexual Female
• SBM    top
  Single Black Male
• SGL    top
  (see SINGLE)
• S&M or S/M    top
  Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).
• SINGLE    top
  A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status.
• SOCIAL    top
  A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.
• SOCIAL SWING CLUB    top
  A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.
• SODOMY    top
  Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner.
• SOFT SWINGERS    top
  Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse.
• SOFT SWINGING    top
  The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
• SRS    top
  Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).
• STD    top
  Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
• STR or STR8    top
  (see STRAIGHT)
• STRAIGHT    top
  Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people.
• SUBMISSIVE    top
  Passive, wishes to be dominated (see Passive)
• SWAPPING    top
  Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.
• SWEDISH CULTURE    top
  Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another
• SWF    top
  Single White Female
• SWING MAGAZINE    top
  A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community.
• SWINGING    top
  An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.
• SWINGING LIFESTYLE    top
  Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
• SWINGING MARRIAGE    top
  Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
• SWM    top
  Single White Male

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• TAN    top
  Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus(AIDS)
• THREESOME    top
  Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. (see Menage a Trois)
• TICKET    top
  A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.
• TOYS    top
  Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)
• TRANSSEXUAL    top
  Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender conversion
• TRANSVESTITE    top
  A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual.
• TRAVEL    top
  (see CAN TRAVEL)
• TRIAD    top
  Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
• TRIOLISM    top
  Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD)
• TUBAL LIGATION    top
  Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.

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• UTOPIAN SWINGER    top
  A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.

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• VASECTOMY    top
  Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially sterilize a male.
• VERSATILE    top
  Bisexual. (see AC/DC)
• VIBRATOR    top
  Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
• VOLUPTUOUS    top
  Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.
• VOYEUR    top
  A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
• VOYEURISM    top
  Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity.

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• WAY-OUTS/ WEIRDOS    top
  Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.

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